Sometimes I'm not quite sure what to make of the differences between between my husband and me. I try not to generalize, i.e. "oh, he's a man, that's just a 'man thing'", but maybe there are times when that is appropriate? For example: we often have discussions where I am trying to advise him or warn him about something but he doesn't take me seriously. He's not doing it out of disrespect; he just disagrees. And that's fine! And even though I know I'm right, I drop the issue (usually). Then, sometime later, he discovers that I was right all along and I'm biting my tongue trying not to say "I told you so". That seems to happen often, or maybe that's just my perception. (I'm REALLY trying to be open-minded here!) My husband happens to be an extremely bright guy who is extremely good to me. As a friend of mine would say, "he ain't stupid!".
I'm not complaining... Don and I are fortunate since we're so compatible and rarely ever fight!! I bring this subject up because I've just been wondering lately if these "disagreements" (for lack of a better word) are due to gender differences or just our personalities. I know my mom has talked about this regarding my stepdad, and a few weeks ago at church, a friend was talking about how he and his wife experience this as well (admitting that his wife tended to be "right" more often than he is). I'm not interested in "winning"... I'm fine with being wrong if it's best for both of us. I guess I'm still wading through the newlywed game of understanding each other through our differences. I find it much easier to connect with people if I can understand the reasons for why they act the way they do, therefore I have always placed a great deal of effort into "figuring people out". My career literally depended on that skill, as my ability to support myself as a social worker relied on my success.
I am enjoying being married for so many reasons, the least of which is for all of these new questions swirling in my head.
